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Progress Notes

Two professional women: both married with kids and both juggling clients, reports, potty training, packed lunches, chores, dogs, cats, errands, husbands and …”what was that you said? SEX?”
That three-letter word that once was so frequent, so liberating, so yummy has been sidelined in a sea of life, work and snot.
It is time.
Time to put sex back on a pedestal by injecting some extra spice into our relationships.

Progress Notes

When we had our “big reveal” last year, one of the reporters we spoke to asked the Duchess and me whether Mission: Do It had worked. At the time, I was seven months pregnant, and a giggle with a nod to my growing belly was answer enough. And though I apparently still have a growing belly (Lee 3 patted it affectionately tonight and told me it was the baby, which it’s not), the question still lingers: has it worked?

Absolutely. Without a doubt. No question.

But what does that mean?

To some, it means the Lees are seeing more action in the bedroom (and lots of other locations, to be fair), consistently “making it” weekly, if not more, and discovering new tricks, tools, and positions. You know, keeping a constant supply of Pop Rocks in the armoire.

To others, it means I’ve found a way through the blog itself to manage any marital frustration through mirth and editorial comment.

But for me, it means my marriage is better. Period.

Was it bad? No. Was it broken? Hardly. Can a married couple always benefit from increased intimacy of both the physical and emotional kind?


But what does that mean?

It means Mr. Lee and I are now always on the same team. We hold nothing back, remaining committed, as we always have, to being direct and honest with each other, even when I wince as I share the truth.

We happily make up the difference when needed, even when the “difference” comes out to be the whole thing.

We recognize the incredible role our relationship will have in guiding our four young children through life. To, through our mutual commitment – to this blog, his hobbies, church, his sucky job schedule, my impulsive home decorating splurges, our family, etc. – model how to be happy on a personal level and how to be happy in a relationship.

I look at my kids at this moment – two are quietly snoring on a featherbed next to the couch, one is sleeping opposite me on the couch and the other nursing (I’ll let you guess who) – and I think of what they know of me, Mr. Lee and the two of us together. As their vocabularies develop, they’ll be able to put lots of words to all three of those subjects, most of which I don’t even want to guess at. But, I know this much is true: they will all be able to say, as I can about my parents, that we loved, even adored, each other (Mr. Lee used the word “adored” about me on one of our first dates, at which point I may have swooned).

I have witnessed time and again the love and affection among all of our family members get a boost from the leftover “high” of a mission. When Mr. Lee and I are having fun with each other, everyone is having fun. And eventually, they see it modeled enough that it becomes their nature – the honesty, the compromise, the joint commitment to a shared belief, the sacrifice, the reward.

My father used to say that the best thing he did for his children was to love their mother. Mr. Lee’s willingness to embark on this mission with me (he did tell me it was stupid at first, mind you), his defense of it as it “came out”, and the fact that one of the main themes of the whole campaign is careful consideration for his needs as a husband are what, to me, make Mission: Do It successful. This blog in my life has helped my children better know that their father loves their mother.


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